Could I break your heart like a white girl?

PLAYBOY: It is true; a lot of rappers love you. You recorded with Common and Kanye West, played live with Jay-Z.


MAYER: What is being black? It’s making the most of your life, not taking a single moment for granted. Taking something that’s seen as a struggle and making it work for you, or you’ll die inside. Not to say that my struggle is like the collective struggle of black America. But maybe my struggle is similar to one black dude’s.

This is just part of an interview that John Mayer did with Playboy magazine and unlike many people that don’t see any problems with his comments, I DO!


Mayer’s first infraction is his attempt to define blackness. Then he goes to reason that his struggle is similar to a black man, and therefore that is why a lot of rappers seek him out. Defining blackness seems oddly familiar, and despite the outrage it still continues. Now Mayer claims that his struggle is different from the struggle of the entirety of black America, but then he likens his stuggle to one black dude. I want to know which black dude, has similar experiences as John Mayer? Is there a American musician raised in Bridgeport, Connecticut, attended Berklee College of Music in Boston before moving to Atlanta, Georgia in 1997, where you refined your skills and gained a following? Is there a performer who performs mainly acoustic rock, but gradually began a transition towards the blues genre in 2005 by collaborating with renowned blues artists such as B. B. King, Buddy Guy, and Eric Clapton, and by forming the John Mayer Trio?


Anybody? No I didn’t think so. I believe that one “black dude’s” struggle contributes to the struggle of black America and therefore cannot be separated from that struggle. Mayer’s struggle is not related to the struggle of black America, and while it is possible for people to sympathize and empathize with him, the likening of his struggles to a “vague” black dude works to connect his struggle to that of black America.

The formula works like this: black dudes struggle=black America’s struggle. According to Mayer: Mayer’s struggle=black dude’s struggle=black American struggle. His claim ultimately states that it is all connected and one in the same, and its actually NOT.



Also note that anything that Mayer has gone through is seen as a personal struggle and it is not attributed to an entire community struggle. Why don’t we hear about the collective struggle of white America? #Imjustsaying (twitter lover)

MAYER: I don’t think I open myself to it. My dick is sort of like a white supremacist. I’ve got a Benetton heart and a fuckin’ David Duke cock. I’m going to start dating separately from my dick.


PLAYBOY: Let’s put some names out there. Let’s get specific.


MAYER: I always thought Holly Robinson Peete was gorgeous. Every white dude loved Hilary from The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air. And Kerry Washington. She’s superhot, and she’s also white-girl crazy. Kerry Washington would break your heart like a white girl. Just all of a sudden she’d be like, “Yeah, I sucked his dick. Whatever.” And you’d be like, “What? We weren’t talking about that.” That’s what “Heartbreak Warfare” is all about, when a girl uses jealousy as a tactic.

Now my biggest issue with this of course pertains to the treatment of black women. I give Mayer credit for admitting to his white supremacist attitudes when it comes to dating black women, which I don’t think many people will admit out loud. As far as America knows there is a mysterious reason why black women are un-datable hmmmmm.

At least Mayer puts it out there and says he hasn’t opened himself up to the idea.

Mayer names that Hollywood actress that he is attracted to. Most of them fall on the fair side of the spectrum which speaks to the larger complex that true beauty and attractiveness is more closely aligned with European features. What stuck out to me also is that Kerry Washington value as a person, girlfriend, attractive woman or whatever was only elevated after she was aligned with being “white-girl” like. He says that she is “white-girl crazy” (whatever that means” and she could “break his heart like a white girl”. The latter implicitly implies that WOC aren’t valued enough to take seriously in romantic relationships, and in this article specifically—black women. Mayer jumps right in and only appreciate the aspects of her personality that make her white. It is only these aspects that make her attractive, and only then he would only consider fugging her. Notice he didn’t say, “Yeah, I went on a date with him. Whatever.” No in his mind, she gave him fellatio…ummm yea. Anybody else catching my drift?



I wanna know what is white-girl crazy is? What is black-girl crazy? What is latina-girl crazy? And while we at it, What is trans-girl crazy? What is boy-girl crazy? What is asian-girl crazy? Oh, wait they don’t get crazy because they are submissive, demure and well-behaved.
Let’s knock the stereotypes…

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